My married brother has been cheating on his wife and the whole family knows about it except her. He expects us all to keep quiet about it because we’re his family and “blood is thicker than water.”
Queenie, is he right or should someone tell her?—Adulterer’s sister
Dear Adulterer’s sister,
Sometimes a wife prefers not to know about her husband’s affairs because then she does not have to deal with a situation that could break up her marriage.
On the other hand, she should know so that she can protect herself from STDs.
On the one hand you risk your relationship with your brother; on the other hand, there is your sister-in-law’s welfare to consider. All I can tell you is to follow your conscience.
Of course, as I have said before, there is always the good old anonymous letter. And, as I also have said before, this is a small island and secrets are hard to keep. She may already know and prefer for her pride’s sake or whatever reason to ignore the knowledge.